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Taking it Seriously with Small Talk

IT's always a challenge to approach a girl when you don't know what to say to her. Confidence. That's mostly what you need and, of course, a little time to know how.


Getting skilled in making small talk alone can get you lots of new friends and ladies who want to spend time with you. Don't be that guy who don't talk to anyone in a social event. All is good when you know how to make small talk but don't forget to balance things out and don't go overboard. Don't forget that small talk is about making pleasant conversation. There's really no limit to what you can talk about when you're making some small talk.


You should make it a habit to make small talk part of your daily routine. Just think of the friends you can make when you know you can talk to just about anyone. It just makes making relationship easy to form when you know you can talk to her about anything. Especially when you know how to make small talk sexy using conversation escalation training.


Think of the bonds you can make with every person you encounter along the way. The professionals use small talk all the time, too. Just think of how often it happens. There are some things you can do to improve your small talk skills. Sure, it means a lot of practice and doing this will improve all your conversational skills. If you can do what's suggested here, I'm sure you'll improve greatly. Obviously, the best thing you can to make talking easy is simple talk.


Talking to your neighbor is really a good exercise for this since you don't have to go very far. It doesn't have to be anyone specific or even young for that matter. If you happen to meet some tourists, go ahead and talk to them. It's always good to practice with a total stranger willing to talk to you. Get inspiration from newspapers, cookbooks and magazines of things to talk about. Read any source of information you can get your hands on. Sports, fashion and popular culture are some of the best ones you can find things to talk about. Browse the internet when you don't have access to paper media, there's always something there. When you hear something good, it's better to remember it than just ignore it.


Think of the beautiful places you see, even misunderstandings you have can be a good opening line. You can practice in front of the mirror if you're not confident with talking, yet. All the various things you know will help you greatly with making small talk happen. Knowing about many things gives you ammunition when the time comes to talk. The best thing you can do to start is make yourself open for small talk. There's always a chance to talk to someone when you're just waiting for something. If the situation doesn't seem to allow it, you just have to adapt to it a little. Try hosting a party or going to one if you want to really get it going. Don't force yourself into the conversation with someone, just keep it natural.


You should make her feel comfortable with an approachable body language. Keep your attention focused on her using your eyes and you communicate to her what you want to say. Some make the mistake of being too eager. Again this is a mistake. Don't do it. Don't lean in too close to her. It can seem like you're overwhelming her which is not cool at all.



Actually Making Small Talk Sexy

Actually talk to her when you're talking to her. Give her the attention she deserves. Just remember to have some fun when you're talking with her. It's the best way to make great small talks with anyone you want to talk to. You can make her want to keep talking to you even if what you're talking about is trivial.


Anything that's negative in nature will probably turn her off so don't go there if you can. Even if your day isn't going as good as you'd hope, you don't want to make her feel bad about it. When you can't think of anything to say, blurt out a compliment that's true.


When it doesn't lead anywhere, a good compliment still makes her feel good about herself so it's all good. Find something both of you want to talk about. If she likes something and you like something then that's a good enough reason to talk about it. It can be something that she can relate to and make a connection with. Remember that anything can lead to something you can talk about. The moment you find something in common with her, keep talking about it. When that time comes, you can always say something personal to you and make a connection with her.


Of course, you don't want to be overly personal with her. Why would you? It's too soon. When you get to talk about yourself, it's only natural that she should talk about herself, too. If you want to know more about her, go ahead and ask her some good questions. If you're gonna ask her something, beware of asking something that's too personal for new friends to know about. Just remember to keep it light and funny and good. Ask open-ended questions about her interests or surroundings. Then, based on whet she says, you can then say something else that's funny or another question about what she said. But try not to ask too many question to make her feel at ease and comfortable.


This is not an interview that you have to barrage her with questions after questions.  Balance how you ask your questions and when you make your statements to give her some time to think. Once you get the conversation going, you can think about what to talk about next. But don't forget that you still need to listen to what she says.


Take your time and really listen to what she's saying when she's talking. Listening in while she's saying something will make you a better conversationalist than anything else. Keep your ears open for anything that might lead you to discover something new about her. Listen carefully and you won't need to do much of the talking yourself. 


If you listen well, you'll understand and encourage the people talking to you. Let her talk about what she thinks and you'll have a better conversation going. And when the conversation ends, you'll be sure to have known many new things about her. This could help both of you connect at a deeper level and make her feel good about the experience.


If you want, you can meet again next time by suggesting a good place and scheduling another day to continue. Just tell her you enjoy talking to her about a certain subject and ask her to hang out again. Be sure you make her feel good before you go your own way. Keep your eyes and ears open for another window to make small talk. This will help you work on you confidence and overcoming your shyness.